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Thanksgiving in Bali

Wonder Boy and I spent the last two weeks of November in Bali, which was, to me, the ultimate in exotic sounding vacations. I’m glad we went there because the trip was full of high points
Star Sightings
Our flights went from Cincinnati to Chicago to Qatar to Singapore to Bali. On the way back it was the same, in reverse, only swap out Chicago with New York. It was a solid 24 hours of in-air travel. The cankles those flights gave me!On our flight from Chicago to Qatar we were accompanied by Shaquille O’Neil as well as Jim Bob Duggar and one of his daughters. Very exclusive.

Animal Encounters
We’re not picky on our trips about animal encounters. We’re perfectly content with cats, dogs and everyday farm animals. In Bali we did have some good kitten interactions.

But cats shmats. That was quickly trumped by monkeys, which tend to live at many of the larger temples throughout Bali.

But monkeys shmonkeys. That was trumped by elephants. We visited a place that had several and we got to get so close!

But elephants shmelephants. I got to hold an orangutan! And pet a tiger!

Nom Nom
Bali is a total score for vegetarians. We were able to eat pretty much anywhere and the food was always delicious. One of our favorite meals was in Sanur at a night market. To us, it was very much like someplace Anthony Bordain would visit. In a parking lot, all sorts of food trucks and vendors had set up. Wonder Boy and I stuffed ourselves with delicious food. On our way back we added up the total cost. $1. That wAs our combined total. Amazing.

Nature
the longer Wonder Boy and I live in a city, the more we’re moving away from city-focused vacations and more towards one with outdoorsy stuff. In Munduk we went on an amazing hike. In Pemuteran we went snorkeling. Bali is a beautiful country with so much to see!

Luxe
I’ve always been very vocal about embracing mid-range hotels and nicer hostels when I travel. Mainly because I’m cheap. The cost of things in Bali was such that we got to stay in some FANCY places. Our own villa in the middle of a rice paddy. Our own cottage with an outdoor bathroom and rooftop deck with daybeds. A tree-house like hotel room with three walls of solid glass. If I weren’t so cheap, I could get hooked!

Gobble Gobble!
On actual Thanksgiving weekend we spent the day nursing hangovers while sunning ourselves by an infinity pool, eating some delicious Indian food (we have a vacation tradition to eat Indian food wherever we go) and visiting a drag queen bar called Bottom’s Up. A pretty nice day!

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My Approach to Adventure Travel

Ask either Wonder Boy or I and we’ll tell you that we take very normal, but exotic sounding, vacations. Ask many people we know and they’ll tell you we take adventurous trips, a la The Amazing Race. I’m not sure where the discrepancy lies, but folks’ perceptions of what we do thinks maybe I have some credibility in advising your typical traveler on upping their adventure quotient.*For me, having an adventurous vacation is about releasing control. In my everyday life, I have to maintain whatever semblance of control I can at all times. Tightly scripted schedules, calendars of social events, to do lists, smartphone reminders. So when I pack my suitcase, I say let the control go and enter into a little of free fall.

That free fall starts for me in how I plan, or don’t, for a trip. Wonder Boy and I plan each trip the same way. We buy plane tickets, book our first and last nights’ hotels.

That’s it. The rest of the trip schedule happens organically.

I can acknowledge that it is sort of a luxury to be able to wing it. I know I can always afford a hotel somewhere, even if it falls outside of my financial comfort zone. But even when I was less financial stable, right out of college, I still let myself go into travelling free fall. Instead of hotels, I just relied more on hostels. This system can work with any type of budget. During our trip we find hotels using our Lonely Planet guidebooks, asking people or, now that wireless is so easy to come by, travel apps like TripAdvisor on our phone.

So this free fall? It’s not only lodging but also day to day activities. If you don’t pre-plan a trip, you can adjust where and what you do based on what’s interesting, the weather, the cost, etc. For instance, when we visited Turkey, we intended to enjoy some beach time and the Augean Sea. The weather in Northern Turkey was cooler than we anticipated. Since we had no schedule or reservations to maintain, we were able haul our butts south and enjoy southern Turkey and a nearby Greek island. Similarly, on a recent trip to Bali we went to Munduk, which was beautiful but also really rainy. After making the most of things and hiking and sightseeing in the rain, we split town.

Another aspect of adventurous travel is trying to find the right mix of touristy and non-touristy things. Old Kate would have said there is no value in touristy things, even if I was actively partaking in them. I see the value now, in moderation.

It’s easy to always eat at restaurants frequented by expats and tourists, where you know the food is more likely to be safe and familiar. The flip side is that it’s also pretty much guaranteed to be more expensive and less authentic to the place you’re visiting! When I travel, I will ask locals for recommendations on cheap, non-touristy places. Wonderfully, people are apt to refer you to their personally preferred bars and restaurants, where you get to experience inexpensive, delicious local food in an authentic atmosphere. In Bali in the city of Sanur we ate at a night market full of food stalls serving local cuisine to locals and we stuffed ourselves with deliciousness for a total cost of $1 (combined). The same philosophy works for hikes, parks, beaches, shops, etc.

All that said, I’ve been trying to embrace some touristy things. Without doing so, this would never have happened!

I feel like I’m not doing a fair job of explaining what Wonder Boy and I do because it’s what we don’t do that makes all the difference. You want adventurous travel? WING IT. It will be okay.

* I fully acknowledge that many people take way more adventurous trips than I do, involving physical challenges and truly dangerous places. That’s cool but probably a little out of reach for your average person. I think what I can offer is a way for a typical beach-goer, Disney visitor to up the ante a little.

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All You Have To Do Is Ask. Maybe Twice.

When I created my 100 List, I tried to come up with goals that felt big but doable. Like “live in another country.” That’s not something you can accomplish in an hour or during an outing to the mall. But it’s in the realm of possibilities. The item I thought was the most outlandish was “have The Features to my house for dinner.” But no.When The Features played Bunbury this past summer I sent the band a heartfelt note on Facebook and got no response. I still got to see them play, though, as well as talk them after their concert. (Wonder Boy would quickly point out that “talking” to them really involved him talking and me standing around being star struck, which is ridiculous because we’d talked to them after previous shows.)

A coworker let me know The Features were coming back in town and I immediately bought tickets. It didn’t occur to me until two days before the show to contact the band again. This time I tried locating an email address at which to reach them. The thing about contacting a band, though, is that (for me) it just means doing wild searches on Google and hoping you land on the right answer.

And sometimes you strike gold.

I emailed the only address I found on Wednesday. Thursday afternoon I received a response from the band’s manager. After almost passing it out with glee, I emailed back and forth with him to set up dinner plans for Friday at 6:30. (Throughout this there also multiple panicked texts and calls to Wonder Boy.) At 6:30 on Friday, the lead singer of the band called (introducing himself as “Matt… from The Features” as if I didn’t know that) to say they were running late. He texted a little while later to let me know they were on there way.

My seven, Matt Pellham (lead singer) and Mark Bond (keyboardist) were at my house for dinner. AT MY HOUSE FOR DINNER.

And with that I began one of the greatest nights of my life. Seriously. I could go into details about how wonderful it was and how surprisingly not weird it was. But the main thing for me is just that I was so happy. Happy that I took the time to ask. Ecstatic that they agreed to do it.

And pleased as punch with my souvenir from the evening. This past Spring I made a letterpress print that included lyrics from a Features song. And now I have a copy that is autographed by band members. Woo hoo!

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Review of The Middlesteins, by Jami Attenberg

I have a new review posted on Nudge – of The Middlesteins, by Jami Attenberg. I read the book because Attenberg was coming to town for a book reading that I ended up not being able to attend. I struggled with the book. A lot. But I also keep thinking about it so clearly there was something good about it!

“And there he was, in a suit (it was his only one, but she didn’t know that yet), and he was smiling (his happiest days were behind him the minute he met her, but he didn’t know that yet)…”
As soon as I read that line in The Middlesteins by Jami Attenberg, I kept returning to it. It’s such a smartly said scathing comment. And really, it summarizes so much of what happens in the novel.

Read my complete review on Nudge.

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Humanity

Lately I’ve been overwhelmed by the kindness of people. It’s a welcome break from the idiocy that normally dominates news stories and confronts me all around.

What has overwhelmed me are not large acts. Rather, its the compiling of many small acts. Connections between people. A former co-worker receiving an outpouring of support from so many people. A personal connection made with a postal worker. The trust of a client leaving me her house key under her apartment doormat. Help from friends and family with my pets.

It’s nice to be reminded how nice we all can be. How we can all connect once we pull ourselves from behind a screen. How we all are able to support and love one another.

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